May 10, 2012

Time



Who isn't talking about this article right now?
I'm not sure how I feel about it.

It sparked a conversation between Dave and I about when I would be done breastfeeding.
Emma is almost a year old and I assumed I would wean at that point but I'm not going to lie to you, I'm a little sad about it.
I never thought I would be able to breastfeed, let alone continue it for a year and now I'm afraid that I will lose that time with her.
Do I think I would nurse her until she's 3? No.
12 months? 15 months? 18 months? I don't know.

I do know that this is NOT how you bring awareness to breastfeeding.
Is breastfeeding special to this mother and her child? 
Most likely, but I have to wonder, would so many people be upset about it if she was cradling a 6 month old?
Are people upset about the breastfeeding or the fact that the child is 3? I've seen multiple people comment:

 "It's fine if you do it, I just don't want to see it".

Hmmm... where have we heard that before?
As a mother who essentially attachment parents, I see no reason to scoff this mother for continuing to breastfeed her child. 
There is no evidence that prolonged breastfeeding hinders a child, just as data is inconclusive that it's "better" for them to continue after one year.

 It is a personal, special moment that can absolutely be shared in public. 
I breast feed in public. 
I let me daughter sleep in my bed when she wakes up at 4 am for a feeding.
Would you like to crucify me?

She's a mother who made the choice to make her decisions to breastfeed her child until he is 3 very public. She, and her son, will have to deal with the scrutiny of people everywhere for what I assume to be, years to come.
However, you won't hear me judge her.
She's a mom, doing what she feels is best for her kid.
And God help you, if you think you are mightier than that.



3 comments:

  1. I agree with you! I BFed my first for 13 months and my second for 12. I wanted to continue but they were too busy for me. I see NOTHING wrong with the image that the cover portrays. And honestly it pisses me off when people say that it's "gross" and "disgusting"... how IGNORANT can some people be?! And even people questioning whether or not it's "natural"... I mean, seriously, there's nothing UNnatural about BFing! Instead of bringing awareness to this subject that's already taboo, this article just continued to dig a grave for BFing... how sad!

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  2. You'll know when you are ready to be done, probably. I stopped at 15 months but between 12-15 months, I really only BF first thing when she woke up in the morning. I would also throw her on there when she fell down and bonked her head, etc. By the time I "officially" stopped, I dont think she was getting much anyways.

    The thing that I think is so sad about is that women are attacking each others choices. Would I BF until my kid is 3? NOT A CHANCE. Do I think its sort of icky? Well, yeah. But should it matter what I think to those women? Nope. Should I attack those women who make that choice? Of course not.

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  3. I couldn't agree with Jamie more. I won't personally express my discomfort with the situation, but a child who can sit at a dinner table, use utensils and ask for something, I think is old enough to not bf. if it was a serious concern of nutrition, then pump. The fact that it's a thing of "time and closeness" when they are exceeding the age of 2, I think becomes bizarrely sexual. At age three, we teach "private" places and try to set boundaries. Keyword; try. Of course kids will still barge in when we are trying to pee. But the fact is I don't think "private parts" will ever exist if this keeps up. When IS a good time for this mom to wean? When he is getting married? I mean I'm not judging her, but publicizing it isnt taking a stand. It's drawing scrutiny even further. Sigh. This will never end...

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